Cynthia Epelle

  Those who will never apologize. They can never say they are sorry. Those who make a mistake then blame you or someone else for their mistake. They would claim it was something you did that led to their action. They can’t accept responsibility.  Those who commit an error yet insist that they are still correct. I'm not sure if it's due to ignorance or a constant desire to be right.  Those who pretend they really want to help but behind your back, they are actually the ones declining your offer. They will give different ideas on ways to try, encourage you that you’re the best but won’t give you a chance People who hold back praise and badger but berate you when you fail. They shield your 99 good then share your 1 bad. If anyone is exhibiting any character you love and admire and sincerely want it to continue, then never cease to tell them, pride them, etc. Selfish people: the truth is we are all selfish, we want good things to happen to us. However, we can’t be oblivion to the f

  People don’t know YOU They only know the person you let them see (the mask you wear) You’re wildfire You’re untamed YOU see all the weight you carry How it breaks you down and forges a stronger version of you People don’t know YOU You’re soft and sweet like cake Do you think they know YOU? When they define you differently When YOU’re unpredictable You see how they misinterpret your meekness for weakness But, you know YOURSELF, so resist being influenced by the crude statements of those who are unfamiliar with you. It’s YOU first Your SPACE; your PEACE Own it With Love

  We know people that are currently in a toxic relationship, you’ve heard them talk about leaving the relationship but they never leave. Maybe they are in for financial benefits? Or perhaps it’s just love? And what about those people that hate their jobs but won’t quit? Why complain when they know what to do? If we give ourselves enough reason to hate someone we deeply love, we will wake up one morning and we are filled with hatred towards that person likewise if we want to fall in love with someone. What changed? “Enough reason to back up their decision” They haven’t convinced themselves with good enough painful reasons as to why they should leave. They only think of the pain they will derive after they leave. If the pain of leaving is greater than that of staying, they will stay. We weigh options and go for the less painful one. Remember when you thought you would die when your ex broke up with you? Look at you now doing just fine. You’ve convinced your heart with bitter feelings to

Thoughts can be deceiving!!!!!! One thing I've learned from experience is to never ASSUME. To assume someone knows what to do/say To assume someone knows exactly what I’m thinking or how I’m feeling. To assume what I think about someone or something is correct. To assume people will treat me how I want to be treated without demanding it. Assumptions are not Communication and can be misleading. An assumption is a vague vision of what's on the other person's mind. Assumptions are not facts, never start a fight, relationship, or business based on assumption. By communicating we understand each other. Most relationship end due to lack of communication- they assume their partner should know what’s on their mind even before they say the word and if their partner can’t do that it becomes “he/her doesn’t know me well” Like you, everyone is sorting out a lot of things. They aren’t saying a lot because they don’t want to be an additional burden to you. If you’re mad people aren’t se

  The first day I ate Chinese fried rice, I fell in love, and it became lunch. l had a friend at work who would buy it for me  One day he wanted to get me lunch and I declined. I didn't decline because I wasn't hungry  The trick is this: 1. I treated him the way I would like to be treated. 2. I don't want him to get tired of buying me lunch, so sometimes I have to decline and other times I have to pay in his presence because I understand that givers get tired when they give on a regular basis and when they don't receive depending on the relationship. My annoyance with few humans is once you agree to help them once, you automatically agree to help them forever. Givers get tired, so ask with caution and moderation. What humans taught me is a good deed I can't keep up until Jesus comes I shouldn't even start. So before I say yes to a request I have to access the person requesting- will this person make this request over and over again, if the answer is yes, then I

  What is the future of freelancers in Nigeria? As the world moves towards innovation, Nigeria always seems to play catch up.  Change is constant and it isn’t restricted to humans alone. The work landscape is always changing, sometimes for good and sometimes for worse. While the change in the workplace is scary it makes freelancing fun. Initially, the traditional job offers some sort of job security, retirement with a pension. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case due to unexpected changes like a layoff, and wage slash, etc.  The pandemic gave freelancers the center stage- everyone had to work from home and 3 months down the line everyone realized they could work remotely. It was the moment of truth for most people and a career change.  The Internet has opened up many independent opportunities, helped small businesses, and has expanded other businesses. Freelance marketplaces have also globalized competition for some jobs, and yes it has made many go the extra mile to hone their sk