What Happens When we Attach Pain

We know people that are currently in a toxic relationship, you’ve heard them talk about leaving the relationship but they never leave. Maybe they are in for financial benefits? Or perhaps it’s just love?

And what about those people that hate their jobs but won’t quit? Why complain when they know what to do?

If we give ourselves enough reason to hate someone we deeply love, we will wake up one morning and we are filled with hatred towards that person likewise if we want to fall in love with someone. What changed?

“Enough reason to back up their decision”

They haven’t convinced themselves with good enough painful reasons as to why they should leave. They only think of the pain they will derive after they leave. If the pain of leaving is greater than that of staying, they will stay. We weigh options and go for the less painful one.

Remember when you thought you would die when your ex broke up with you? Look at you now doing just fine. You’ve convinced your heart with bitter feelings towards that person, which helped you heal and thought of a beautiful world without them.

With 😍 Cynthia

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