You First Counseling

  We know people that are currently in a toxic relationship, you’ve heard them talk about leaving the relationship but they never leave. Maybe they are in for financial benefits? Or perhaps it’s just love? And what about those people that hate their jobs but won’t quit? Why complain when they know what to do? If we give ourselves enough reason to hate someone we deeply love, we will wake up one morning and we are filled with hatred towards that person likewise if we want to fall in love with someone. What changed? “Enough reason to back up their decision” They haven’t convinced themselves with good enough painful reasons as to why they should leave. They only think of the pain they will derive after they leave. If the pain of leaving is greater than that of staying, they will stay. We weigh options and go for the less painful one. Remember when you thought you would die when your ex broke up with you? Look at you now doing just fine. You’ve convinced your heart with bitter feeling...

Thoughts can be deceiving!!!!!! One thing I've learned from experience is to never ASSUME. To assume someone knows what to do/say To assume someone knows exactly what I’m thinking or how I’m feeling. To assume what I think about someone or something is correct. To assume people will treat me how I want to be treated without demanding it. Assumptions are not Communication and can be misleading. An assumption is a vague vision of what's on the other person's mind. Assumptions are not facts, never start a fight, relationship, or business based on assumption. By communicating we understand each other. Most relationship end due to lack of communication- they assume their partner should know what’s on their mind even before they say the word and if their partner can’t do that it becomes “he/her doesn’t know me well” Like you, everyone is sorting out a lot of things. They aren’t saying a lot because they don’t want to be an additional burden to you. If you’re mad people aren’t se...